Being Honest With Yourself Changes Everything

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I went to Colorado to find a safe place to let my heart break.

Growing up, I recklessly assumed that such a life would come to me.

God came and found me in those mountains. That weekend was a divine invitation to leave my expectations and entitlements in the ice and snow, and they’ve long since melted away.

Here’s the thing, though: it’s not a quick fix. It never is.

I had to let go of comparison, false expectations, and the illusion of control, in order to make room in my life for grace, friendship, gratitude, and joy.

It had to start somewhere, though, and for me, it started with gaining the ability to be honest and clear with myself.

On the surface, my main priority had been to remain functional.

That inability to talk about it held me back from being able to get the connection and support I needed.

More than anything, what I needed was to let my guard down and admit that I was hurt. That I felt unsafe and uncertain. I needed to lay down my pride and self-defense, and allow myself to feel it all, fully and deeply.

That was the key to my healing.

It also helps us orient ourselves in our important relationships.

If we choose to invite others in, words are the way we do so.

So it is with us. Putting words to our thoughts gives us the chance to take control of the proverbial ball, and begin to move it in the direction we want to go.

The more we get to know ourselves and understand who we are, who we want to be, and where we want to go, the more we can purposefully direct our thoughts and actions to help us get there.

We can leave behind the lies our doubts, fears, or jealousies have led us to believe, and reclaim the truth.

And there we find the potential for a momentum shift in our lives.



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Becca Rusinko

Becca Rusinko

Intentional Living Coach. Catch your balance. Find your path. Move forward with Peace & Purpose. Learn more at